I have found that the measure of a man is not necessarily his title or his position, but rather how he treats others—his peers, his supervisor, the cab driver, or the airline clerk after he has missed an important connecting flight. This is particularly true in how a man treats those closest to him—his wife and children.
Victor L. Brown, "A Lifetime of Learning", General Conference, October 1989
Throughout my life, I have seen those in higher church callings act a certain way in a public setting, as in when they are at church, and then act completely different when in a not so public place. Or, I've experienced members who "profess with their lips, but there hearts are far from" the Lord. I know that behavior is out there, even in the church.
Please don't misunderstand. Only Heavenly Father knows a person's heart and intention and I am absolutely not judging the person. I am, however, supposed to judge between right and wrong behavior as it pertains to my life and my salvation. I see behavior in life that I want to emulate, then I see behavior that I don't want in any part of. Sometimes though, unintentionally, I end up doing the exact thing that I find incorrect that someone else is doing. That is the definition of hypocrisy. And I try not to be like that.
The greatest people I know and admire are great, not because they can drain a 3 pointer at the buzzer in front of tens of thousands of people, or hit a home run in the bottom of the 9th to win a World Series....that is not a hero. The greatest people I know, are kind to others, even when provoked. They are compassionate with big hearts. They love everyone, especially those closest to them. They are friendly and sociable, even with complete strangers. They are polite. They are considerate. They are selfless.
I am blessed to be surrounded by these kinds of people. THAT is the behavior I want to emulate.