“When it comes to living the gospel, we should not be like the boy who dipped his toe in the water and then claimed he went swimming. As sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father, we are capable of so much more. For that, good intentions are not enough. We must do. Even more important, we must become what Heavenly Father wants us to be.”
Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Of Regrets and Resolutions”, General Conference, October 2012
We all know someone who is focused only on the appearance of living the gospel rather than truly living it. Someone who is pretentious, self-righteous, someone who is a “Sunday Mormon”. I often think to myself, “Am I that way too? ” “Do others see me as that?”. It’s not that we are judging them, it’s just a behavior we don’t want to be emulating.
I know I have a tendency to be nicer to strangers as opposed to someone in my everyday circle. I shouldn’t say nicer, but more patient. Why is that? Are we afraid that strangers will judge us? So we act superficial? Are we then relaxed enough with loved ones that we don’t have to pretend with them? Cuz they’ll love us despite our weaknesses?
The older I get the more important the issue of pride is to me. Or, rather, I better understand what it means to be prideful. It is so easy, and it’s human nature, to want those around you to think of you as a good person. So, we become more focused on that, on the appearance of good, as opposed to our own eternal welfare.
So, instead of just dipping my toe in the water and telling everyone that I went swimming, I am going to work on actually diving in, or at least walking in to the deep end. I will start to become how I act around others. It may take some time to align those two behaviors, but I will. That is my focus.